Sex Love And Pain : "TO TELL OR NOT TO TELL?" THAT IS THE QUESTION....
Welcome to the new site!!!! I hope all are loving it and finding it easier to navigate. As for me I love it. How was everyone's week? Mine was smooth not too much in the way of drama and madness (which I'm so used to, that I kind of missed it). You guys all know that I find inspiration in anything and this week was no different. I was having a conversation with one of my male friends and was struck by something he said. While I normally don't draw opinions on people based on the way they deal with their significant others this time was a little different.....
Communication is key in any relationship. I believe it's a full time job and by far the hardest part of the relationship. Most relationship failures happen when the communication breaks down and for some reason or another one person begins to shut down.
In some cases it can even be the total opposite where there can even be a such thing as TMI (Too Much Information) in a relationship. Anyway, during this conversation I was having with my friend he said "I tell my girl everything..." I simply replied "That's deep" I was intrigued by his openness but I was also more aware than ever that the word "everything" is objective. (definition of objective: expressing or dealing with facts or conditions as perceived without distortion by personal feelings, prejudices, or interpretations. Translation: Its based on your personal feelings or interpretation)
MY PERSONAL THOUGHTS ON THIS, ARE AS FOLLOWS:
TELL WHEN NECESSARY: IF THERE IS A GIRL THAT THINKS YOUR ATTRACTIVE AT WORK, KEEP IT TO YOURSELF. AS LONG AS NO LINES ARE CROSSED THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THIS. BESIDES EVERYONE NEEDS A EGO STROKE EVERY NOW AND THEN IT'S HUMAN NATURE. NOW IF THIS CHICK TOUCHES YOU AND TRIES TO STROKE SOMETHING OTHER THAN YOUR EGO, I BETTER BE FILLED IN.
GUYS WHO RUN BACK TO THEIR GIRL WITH EVERY LITTLE THING, ARE A TURN OFF. LIKE DUDE GET A BACK BONE, GROW A SET, BE A MAN. GOSSIPING IS FOR BITCHES. (ITS EVEN UGLY WHEN CHICKS DO IT, SO STOP IT)
I ALSO FEEL THAT MEN AND WOMEN ALIKE WILL TELL MORE WHEN THERE IS A LACK OF TRUST. IF A MAN FEELS HIS WOMAN DOESN'T TRUST HIM, HE MAY FEEL INCLINED TO TELL HER EVERYTHING THAT WENT ON WHEN HE WENT OUT WITH THE BOYS.
STOP... DON'T DO IT.
THIS IS NOT GONNA DO ANYTHING BUT HURT YOU (men) IN THE LONG RUN. WE,(WOMEN) GET ACCUSTOMED TO THINGS VERY FAST AND AS MUCH AS WE WILL DENY IT, ONCE MAKES A HABIT WITH US. THE FIRST TIME THAT YOU NEGLECT TO GIVE US THE RUN DOWN WE WILL GO OFF. LADIES, MEN ARE JUST THE SAME. THEY ARE CREATURES OF HABIT JUST LIKE WOMEN IF NOT WORSE.
I say focus on you and your mate, when in each others company talk about the current events in each others lives but leave the small petty stuff out. If you run out of things to talk about bring up current events nonsensical talking will only cause stupid disagreements. How many times have you been riding in the car with your significant other and the car has gone silent. In an attempt to strike conversation you say something like this "The other day when we were out a guy stopped me and told me I looked familiar and that he knew me from somewhere. He was talking like he knew me and then he asked me for my number."? Hes not going to immediately say anything but he's thinking something along the lines of "oh, yeah? I wonder what else happened when you were out" The next time you wanna go out expect an unnecessary attitude and probably a fake fight.
What do you think is too much information in a relationship? Do you even think there is a such thing as TMI in a relationship?
I wanna know what you guys think?
I in summary believe you should "Keep it Cute or Keep it on MUTE." lol